I would like to encourage anyone who is a member of a church to approach a visitor this Sunday and have a conversation. I would suggest scouting them out while you are sitting in church because us visitors like to leave quickly after the service is over. In fact, if you sit in the same location each week and know all the members around you then you need to change locations. I suggest sitting in the back.
I refer to my opinion sometimes as the "general population" and I will pass along questions that I think the general population would feel comfortable being asked (as a visitor in church).
Safe Questions:1 - Hi my name is X. I don't believe that I have met you before. Are you visiting?
2 - How did you hear about X church?
*****This can lead into another light conversation.
If they say referral - talk about who and how they know each other.
If they say they live close talk about the area..ex: oh this is a nice area to live in. Do you to go x (park, mall, great restaurant) nearby.
If they say they looked it up online talk about how great the internet is and how online has saved you in the kitchen or how it has connected you with lost friends.
3 - Are you enjoying the summer? Have you spent much time outdoors?
4 - Well it was great meeting you. We have x class that meet x time and I would love to have you come and join us. Or we are having x event at church next x...you should come attend. I went to it last year and it was amazing. It may seem hard to believe but adult classes are not marketed well. Kid and teen classes are always in the program but not always adult classes. Share this information with a visitor. Otherwise, it may take them weeks of visiting to get the nerve to ask the visitor center about it. Sounds weird, but true...remember I am the general population.
Dead End Questions:1 - Are you married? - If you don't see a spouse standing nearby, don't ask. A yes or no answer is awkward either way.
2 - Do you have kids? - Again, if they aren't hanging on my legs or bulging out of my tummy then don't ask.
3 - What do you do for work? - While this one is tempting...I suggest against it. It feels like you are sizing them up.
And as a visitor I will...
1 - Answer your open ended questions
2 - Try to not sit on the back row
3 - Walk slowly to give you time to stop me for a conversation
4 - Ask about adult classes at the visitor center at the second attendance
Let me know if you have any success this weekend!